Great Strides and Small Steps: Loyalty #1

Great Strides and Small Steps: Loyalty #1

by | September 15, 2014 | Power of Relationships | 0 comments

Taking small steps to improve the lives of those we work with often lead to great strides. Whether it’s a fellow attorney, legal assistant, office manager or receptionist makes no difference. The really good news about these small steps is a great irony- what we do for others we do to ourselves.

Try an experiment for the next two weeks. First, identify two people in the office that you want to run the experiment on. Then write down on a piece of paper, on you computer or phone, three aspects of who they are that you like the most- feel free to add more.

Next, write down three ways that you can show your appreciation for how they make your life better by being who they are. Try getting them their favorite drink at your local coffee shop, looking them in the eyes and thanking them for the great work they they do. Or even try letting them know how invaluable their work is in an email with a specific thank you- not the standard “Thanks”.

Lastly, sometime during the first week spend one minute thinking about what you can do different that makes it easier for them to do their job. Write down three things you could do, they can be really easy, like not waiting until the last minute to give them a project. If you can’t think of three changes you can make, then ask them. You can say something like “I really like working with you. You do great work. I was thinking the other day, what can I do different or better to make your job easier.” You are not so much looking for tasks to do for them, but how you can otherwise operate to make their job better. It’s amazing what you can learn by this simple question.

Look at the list everyday, think about how invaluable each person is and what you can do to show your appreciation.

One of the services my legal assistant and I offer each other is what we call “hand holding”. Every now and then both of us can get stalled on a client’s case and hit avoidance mode. Have you ever done that? You know your are spending more time avoiding it and causing increased personal stress than if you just took care of it.

Every couple of weeks I tell Stephanie that I need her help taking care of something that I’m avoiding. Typically this involves her sitting down in my office and saying “how can I help?” Then I pick up the phone and make the call, or send the email or write a letter. In less than three minutes it’s done. It’s that simple.

How much we pay those who help us and the benefits we provide are important, but that’s not what is most important. It’s letting those who work with us know in tangible ways on a regular basis that we value them through our words and deeds.

The loyalty we receive from those we work with will always be directly affected by the loyalty we show for them.

Let me know, either by personal  email or leaving a comment, what changes you saw over the two weeks and any insights you learned.

 

Jim Dwyer

Jim Dwyer

I think of myself as part lawyer, seeker and sharer. We are all so busy taking care of our clients and the many demands of being a lawyer, how do we have time for the practice of law to be about more?

To me, the purpose of being a lawyer is not just about how I help my clients. It’s equally about me living the most successful inner personal life I can. If I can infuse who I uniquely am into my practice and integrate that into becoming a better person then I can raise the bar on my life.

That’s what this blog is for. To help us all navigate our relationships to ourselves, our lives and the law and seeing how they all intersect. I’m always searching for new and innovative perspectives. It’s a continuing process that, day-by-day, through expanding the purposes that work serves, we are able to build both a successful practice of law and life. Hopefully you can find an occasional nugget of truth here that resonates for you.

When we are living our best life, then we’ve raised the bar for the world. I believe hearing how we overcome challenges and self-imposed limitations are how we lift one another. I would greatly appreciate hearing your thoughts and ideas as well. Thanks for joining the conversation.

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